Couples Massages

Who knew that couple’s massages could be this meaningful… 

… and it feels amazing?! 

Couple’s massages are usually offered in a private room or on a beach on two separate, side-by-side massage tables. Two therapists work on the couple at the same time in a synchronized fashion. 

Many couples go for massages as part of a celebration for special occasions, like anniversaries or Valentine’s Day. It’s also an excellent opportunity for the ladies to introduce their significant others to the benefits of facials, massage therapy, spa vibes, and proper cleanliness. Head to toe scrubbed-female-cleanliness, to be more precise. 

But this article is not about the couple’s massages at a SPA, or the beach, and it is not about hygiene practices. Instead, I’d like to argue the point that couples should practice couple’s massages at home to preserve their connection and strengthen their relationship. 

Being in a long-term relationship is a very challenging thing for all parties involved, no questions about it. But not having a strategy to preserve the relationship is just not smart, naiveté.  

I can already hear people smacking their lips. Let me ask you this question. Wouldn’t you say that when people love each other, care for each other, are attracted to each other, are in a relationship together then they tend to touch each other a lot, at least the first few years? 

Touch is a big part of why relationships are formed. In the beginning, people can’t get enough of touching each other. The first time you touch each other hands is probably a memory you can recall. First hug, the first kiss, the first time he massaged your shoulders, first time she let you…

The impressions of how we feel from the first moments we touch each other, become the initial attachment points in the relationship. When it feels good, feels right, we like the person, but if it doesn’t, we couldn’t care less about the person. So, touching is no question about it is a big part of relationships. 

In long-term relationships, the touching decreases with time. Kids, familiarity, aging, fatigue, TV, overeating, not being biologically triggered by each other as in the beginning, there are many reasons why.

People kind of start to grow apart, start to resent and dislike each other because they feel deprived. Touching means approval means caring, means liking, means wanting, touching your partner is showing you’re in love with them. It might sound very simplistic, but the execution is where it gets complex.

I hope you can tell I thought about this for a minute or two… I did think about this and tried to find a solution to improve my long-term relationship. And this is where I arrived.  

You see, touch is the foundation of massage therapy. Massage actually can be defined as professional, purposeful touch that yields therapeutic benefits. Massage can become an excellent strategy for relationship preservation. Massaging is touching, it’s relaxing, it feels good, and you can make it fun.

Plus, the long list of health benefits come as a bonus. 

It’s so easy to neglect each other. Get to a point when people continue to live in the same house, yet they live entirely separate lives. All of that mixed with distinct interests and different tendencies toward different lifestyles. It’s game over. It seems like at that point the only reason people stay together because it’s cheaper, or for the kids. This is what I call the lazy approach to family and relationships.

Not a romantic article with spa-vibes, I guess ha? But it is. People promise golden mountains to each other at the beginning of the relationship. And they rarely ever deliver. True love is delivered through action, and not once or twice a year, but every day. Whether you like it or don’t, your behavior tells it all. 

It is not a secret that massage is excellent for relaxation and rejuvenation. Here’s the million-dollar question then. How often do you relax and rejuvenate each other? 

It’s common knowledge that we associate people with the feelings they make us feel. What type of feelings would you have for someone who helps you to relax and rejuvenate? 

I believe that the correct answer is, a hundred percent positive. But instead, most of us stress each other out. I’d argue that being a stress trigger for the partner is one of the biggest reasons for breakups and divorces. Being in love, being in relationship means, an open proclamation of love and care for one another, ongoingly. Doing things every day for each other that shows care would be the way to go. Don’t you agree?

So let’s look at massage as one of the things we can do for each other. Massage as a strategy that can help us keep our relationships stronger, our bodies healthier, our emotions balanced, and as a strategic safety-net for future adversities that yet to come.

Look, massage has a lot of health benefits. It is excellent for increasing circulation, boosting immunity, getting rid of stress and tension, but it’s hard physical work. Plus it gets pricy, and not everyone can afford to get multiple massages a week. But you could get your shoulders and feet rubbed at home every day or every other day. It would require doing the same for your significant other.

Don’t get me wrong I like the SPA, Zen, waterfall sounds, and cucumber water, all of it. The bourgeoisie knows how to live, for sure. But who has the time or the money to go to the spa every day? Once a week, twice a month, yes for sure, let’s splurge. But realistically, who’s at the spa every day? No one, even the wealthiest, they have the least time of them all.

Never the less, we’re at home, every day, with our loved one. Yet, for some incomprehensible reason, couples at home don’t touch each other for the reason of caring for each other. For some mysterious reason, couples don’t touch each other to maintain the existing connection they have, to create a deeper, more meaningful connection, to show appreciation, and to proclaim their love for each other, to each other, through actions. I guess it’s a crazy idea to think that, when you are in a relationship, by default you assign yourself a job of a 100% caregiver.  

Look, this is what science recommends.

Instead of going to the SPA, you light some candles, get some shea butter, or lavender oil, play relaxing music on Pandora, and let your partner play your massage therapist.

This will have a very positive effect not just for one who’s being massaged, but also on the relationship. I think this is what they mean by relationship building. Everyone talks about it, but rarely anyone practices it.

If you’re not open to massage your partner at least a few minutes a day, then why are you in a relationship with them to begin with?

But if you are open to massage your partner for a few minutes a day but worried that you don’t know what you’re doing or where to start, here are some pointers:

  • Get a massage: while being massage pay attention to the techniques and sequences of techniques that are used.
  • Watch some massage videos on YouTube. 
  • Keep focusing on your hands and trust your hands. Massaging is very intuitive. 
  • Ask for feedback.
  • Ladies, you need to use your strengths and save your delicate fingers
  • Have your man to lie on the floor and use your feet.
  • How? Imagine if your feet are your hands and use them, feel and trust your feet, you can also use your knees on the bigger muscles like gluteal muscles. 

A little effort goes a long way. Find time to work on each other, make it part of your routine. Touch, intentionally created sequences of touch can trigger relaxation, calmness, desire, and passion. And the best way to learn about massages and how to massage is by getting them regularly. 

Wouldn’t you say communication is one of the most important things in relationships? Practicing massage can help your communication channels as well.

The nervous system is your communication network, sending messages constantly that determine proper functioning throughout your body. Stress can affect the ability of the nervous system to do its job. The many nerve endings found in the skin and muscles are soothed by massage, and this contributes to keeping your internal lines of communication open and operational. Couples can improve their communication by helping each other release stress.

Improve, strengthen, deepen, and spice up your relationship by using the wonderful feeling created by touch and massage. Make each other feel good. Make each other comfortable. Rub your wife’s feet when she comes home tired from work. Massage your spouse’s shoulders while watching TV or Netflix.

I guess I could’ve summarized this article in one sentence.  Massage your relationship into health and harmony. ☺

Massage is the perfect gift for any occasion. Whether Valentine’s Day is just around the corner or a long way off, you should book yours now. 

You can be the judge if a couple’s massages are the proclamation of love, or a better way to build healthier, happier, and more meaningful relationship bonds with you mate? 

Either way, massage feels amazing.

So whether you like to learn how to give great massages or get a great massage please give me a call/text at 732-766-0897 or email me at so we can talk about your needs. My style of massage therapy works very effectively for pain, stiffness, other chronic neck conditions, stress and relaxation. 

Thanks for reading,


P.S. Find me on social @haykzar 

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Massage Therapy Health Benefits:

  • Boost immunity  
  • Relieve and Reduce Muscle Tension
  • Fast Stress Relieve
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Promote Relaxation
  • Reducing Anxiety
  • Managing Low Back Pain
  • Help Chronic Neck Pain
  • Healing of Neck/Shoulder Strain    
  • Enhance Exercise Performance
  • Increase Range of Motion
  • Prevents Sports-Related Injuries
  • Relieve Tension Headaches
  • Decreased Migraine Frequency
  • Relieve Lockjaw/TMJ
  • Health Skin Benefits
  • Increase Circulation Blood /Lymph
  • Improve Brain/Nervous System Health
  • Sleep Better and Deeper
  • Ease Symptoms of Depression
  • Improve Cardiovascular Health
  • Reduce Pain of Osteoarthritis
  • Decrease Stress in Cancer patients
  • Improve balance in Older Adults
  • Decrease Rheumatoid Arthritis Pain
  • Help Fibromyalgia Pain
  • Relieve Postoperative Pain
  • Temper facts of dementia
  • Decrease Symptoms of Carpal Tunnel Syndrome
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